Focus on what you DO want

Greetings and Happy Spring!

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Long before “The Secret” movie and book hit the scene in 2006, I was teaching my clients – both individuals and organizational teams – about the Law of Attraction.  This law states that positive or negative thoughts bring positive or negative experiences into a person’s life.  Our thoughts and feelings create a vibratory frequency around us that can be felt by others, not seen.  It’s as if we are tuned in to a radio station.  For illustration purposes, let’s call it 95 on the FM dial.  If what’s playing on the station is “I don’t get a break,” “life is hard,” “it’s not fair,” etc., the person or company will get that kind of results.  To get new results, you must change the station.  What do you want to hear instead?  Let’s say that’s 105 FM.  “Everything works out for the best.”  “I always get what I deserve.”  “The Universe is friendly to my plans.”

It’s my job as a coach to interrupt my clients’ patterns of thinking if the station they are listening to is not getting them the results they seek.  For example, if someone wants to make a career change, we make sure their thoughts and feelings about their current position are “songs” they want to hear in their next job.  Are they songs of gratitude, contribution, integrity?  If not, there is no point in bringing the old songs to the new position.  Change the station first from “my boss is an ass,” “they don’t care about me,” and “this place sucks” to a higher frequency: “I’m so grateful to have a job.”  “God is my Source.”  “I get out what I put in,” and similar thoughts.  After all, everywhere we go, there we are.  We must change ourselves if a career change is going to get us a new experience we enjoy.

I bring this up now because we are witnessing people who do not understand how this law works.  Mother Theresa once famously said, “I will never attend an anti-war rally.  If you have a peace rally, invite me.”  She understood the Law of Attraction.  Another way of saying the law is that “what we focus on expands” and “what we think about, we bring about.”

In our current time, we have people focusing on “anti-racism” and “stop Asian hate.”  My heart hurts when I see these well-meaning people use the law of attraction in an ignorant way.  Focusing on “anti” anything, will get more of it.  The law doesn’t understand words like “not,” “un’ and “anti.”  So, we are actually focusing our attention on racism and hate, the very thing we don’t want!  Far better to focus on what you DO want.

You can contribute to the aims of these movements more effectively if you can focus on what you really desire.  Please join me in focusing on respecting everyone you meet.  Join me in loving everyone as a fellow or sister human being.  Dare I say it, look at each one as a child of God, deserving of kindness, courtesy, justice, and love.

What do you want to focus on?

Will you join me?

Feel free to share this with others who may be ignorant of the law but wanting so much to effect positive change.